How Nomare works

About the name

Nomare is archaic Italian for to call by name. Pronounced no-MAR-ay — three syllables, open vowel ending. The name asks people to be themselves, openly.

Why Nomare exists

I created Nomare because current dating apps make billions of dollars walling people off from each other and gamifying connections. It's scary to put yourself out there on a public dating site, but it's how you build a community and truly find your people. Don't be shy. Join us.

Where your data lives

Your profile is a record in your Bluesky repo. Not on a Nomare server.

• ·Profile fields live at app.nomare.profile in your AT Protocol repo.
• ·Photos are blobs in your PDS — Nomare never stores image bytes.
• ·Delete your profile from Nomare and the record disappears from your repo and from everyone who indexes it.
• ·Sign in with Bluesky, Blacksky, or any AT Protocol PDS.

How moderation works

Nomare inherits the open AT Protocol moderation floor:

• ·Account suspended on Bluesky → can't sign in to Nomare.
• ·Photo taken down on Bluesky → photo disappears from Nomare automatically.
• ·Illegal content is handled by the hosting PDS, not us.

Beyond that floor, Nomare will add its own community standards over time. When we do, we'll say what they are.

Why public is the point

• ·Real handles. No burner accounts, no catfishing.
• ·No matching gate. See someone interesting? DM them on Bluesky directly.
• ·No algorithm. Find people through tags and the social graph you already have.
• ·Your data, your control. Walk away whenever; you keep your repo.

A note on safety

Putting a dating profile on the public web is a real choice with real implications. Don't share what you'd be uncomfortable seeing on a billboard. We're working on tools to give you more control over how you experience the network — match mode to filter who you see, settings to hide photos, and a compact view that strips images entirely. But the open web is the floor, and we won't pretend otherwise.